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<\/a>Frosty glass for gin<\/p><\/div>\n
It’s 15 years today since my Dad<\/a> died. I’ve got a glass with a twist of lemon frosting in the freezer, and I have Triscuits and gin, I’ll buy a little spreadin’ cheese to go with, and a yahrzeit candle. Maybe I can find a better online recitation of mourners’ kaddish than the one I’ve been using, to listen to when I light the candle, and recreate Dad’s regular after work snack – a finger or two of gin over ice with a twist, and a few crackers and cheese, at about 6:30 when he got home from work.<\/p>\n I’m feeling nostalgic for what seemed like happier, simpler times – the 90s. I was in my 30s, and then my 40s. I think I looked my best in my 40s. My kids were little, and then middle schoolers,\u00a0 but not high schoolers yet – not driving and drinkng and scaring me to death all the time. And it’s almost worse now, because they’re grown ups – and I still worry about them but can’t do much of anything except send money and be a sympathetic ear. I was young and pretty with young kids and my parents were still alive\u00a0 to take care of me.<\/p>\n I’m also feeling guilty – still in PJs for a work-at-home day, on which I am determined to\u00a0 finish my paper for dread systems analysis class. It’s soooo boring. And I also need to work on my sections of one of my assigned chapters in the library school’s accreditation report. The work I handed in on Tuesday was unacceptable. Sigh.<\/p>\n And, later this afternoon, I am going to go cookie ingredient shopping and pick up my 1st winter share CSA box, with just about everything (see sidebar) for Thanksgiving dinner except the turkey (that I get Saturday from Matt<\/a>. My CSA farmers<\/a> says they’re cooking one of Matt’s birds, too) So I thought, since I was getting an early start on work, I could do a little housekeeping. I did a load of wash, at least that’s done. I ordered my priority mail boxes for shipping cookies, and I really need to inventory the cookie ingredients I’ve already got, so that I don’t over buy, in this year of so much less money<\/a> to spend on anything. Pay bills so that I know what I can<\/em> spend.<\/p>\n But somehow it’s late already – the trash truck has been down the street, and [retired guy] Mark’s getting up. Better get going …<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":" It’s 15 years today since my Dad died. I’ve got a glass with a twist of lemon frosting in the freezer, and I have Triscuits and gin, I’ll buy a little spreadin’ cheese to go with, and a yahrzeit candle. Maybe I can find a better online recitation of mourners’ kaddish than the one […]<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":1,"featured_media":0,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"footnotes":""},"categories":[1],"tags":[166,197,237,254],"class_list":["post-7956","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","hentry","category-uncategorized","tag-dads-yahrzeit","tag-guilt","tag-household-chores","tag-working-at-home"],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/debslunch.com\/debslunchblog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/7956","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/debslunch.com\/debslunchblog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/debslunch.com\/debslunchblog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/debslunch.com\/debslunchblog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/1"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/debslunch.com\/debslunchblog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=7956"}],"version-history":[{"count":8,"href":"https:\/\/debslunch.com\/debslunchblog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/7956\/revisions"}],"predecessor-version":[{"id":7967,"href":"https:\/\/debslunch.com\/debslunchblog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/7956\/revisions\/7967"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/debslunch.com\/debslunchblog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=7956"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/debslunch.com\/debslunchblog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=7956"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/debslunch.com\/debslunchblog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=7956"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}<\/a>.<\/p>\n